Feb 162010
 

~ Don’t Use It If It Doesn’t Make Sense To You

I’ve been using a capo on my guitar for what seems like forever. It’s just a tool that’s a part of my kit when I play. over the years I’ve learned to use it for more than just the obvious aspect of changing keys. I use this simple machine to half capo across the neck and to get specific sounds out of my guitar that you can’t get when you strum it open. But when I first was introduced to a capo I didn’t know what to make of it. I understood its capabilities, but not its applications. I was aware of it and when I got to a tipping point in my guitar playing, I saw the personally relevant application of the capo.

I’m beginning to see that a lot these days. I come across a new widget/doo-hickey/whatchacallit thing and while I understand the simple purpose of it, the personal application is not apparent. At least not immediately.

Let’s take this blog for example. I’ve been writing in this medium for about a year, posting songs and ideas, but prior to that I didn’t have one and didn’t really want one. I knew what blogs were and I read them and subscribed, but they didn’t have any practical personal application. But blogs were making my head crazy because I was told that as a musician I should have one. I see why, but why for me? Storm like this swirl around when we come in contact with a new medium. The storm of: You should be doing this because… fill-in-the-blank. Yikes, I have to have a blog and I don’t. I’m yesterday’s news, I’ll never succeed as a songwriter. Rats. of course that’s not true. There are millions of artists out there that don’t have blogs and they’re doing just fine. For me, it just wasn’t relevant; that is until the concept slid into place in my brain like a puzzle piece and I knew what I wanted to write about and share with you my faceless audience.

There are a lot of these storms raging out there. If you don’t have a blog-Twitter-Facebook-Reverbnation-CDBaby-website-Bebo-Flickr-flamalamadingdong, well brother… you’re just shit out of luck. But I say again – If it isn’t personally relevant, then why bother?

This really hit home with me when it was strongly suggested that I should start using a contact management system. I was happy with my calendar and proud of my simple spreadsheet list of names. Well not really. I understood that my system was flawed, but when I started trying to use contact management software I balked. It didn’t make sense to me even though I understood the concept. Then, after I had downloaded the same software for the second time I did something with it that just clicked in my brain and it was like the whole application suddenly snapped into focus. I got it and the software made sense.

The point to all of this is that we do not need to use every new thing that other people scream about. If you understand the social aspect of Twitter and how it can connect you to fans, but just don’t see how you can apply it to your artistic world, then don’t. Everyone screams: Make a video and put it onYouTube. You say – Yeah, I see other musician’s videos, but making a video just doesn’t click with me right now – then don’t do it. You gotta start using a capo. Yeah I see lots of people using them, but I don’t see where it fits in to my playing – then don’t use it.

But, you should walk this path with your eyes and ears wide open. If enough (normal)people are screaming loudly about something, you should at least turn around to see if it’s someone waiting to hug you or an axe murderer. At least take a look at the New Widget On The Block to see if it fits with your world. I would also suggest that if the screaming persists you should revisit the concept to see if that new something has changed or perhaps see if you’ve changed and now that thing that you thought was irrelevant is now the most amazing tool in your kit.

Have you had something laying around for a long time that just recently made sense and became a part of your tool kit? What new thing are you ignoring that you think may become relevant later? Leave a comment!

Nov 152009
 

It’s never easy to say good-bye, especially at an airport where you usually do not have the luxury to linger. I was intrigued when I saw this posted to Twitter recently: “Had coffee with my husband at the airport this morning, a date without the kids for the first time in a long time.” (That’s 117 characters by the way). This was posted by Pam Slim, a person I follow on Twitter who is an entrepreneur, wife and mother. She travels a lot as does my wife and her posting hit home. I typed back that that line sounded like a song and I wrote it down in my journal. After looking at the line for a few days I knew that there was a story in there. It may not be Pam’s story or even my story, but I’m sure this happens all too often: one spouse goes and one souse stays to make sure there is something to come back to. What are the feelings involved? Loneliness, regret, resentment, guilt, nostalgia? The list could go on and on. I also thought about the person leaving and how they have one side at home and one side that is committed to the trip to where ever they are headed. The one constant throughout this scene is love: love on the other side of good-bye, love on the other side of the person who is leaving.

This is a demo recording and the thing I’ve noticed is that I don’t think I should be singing this song. Perhaps this is more a song suited to a female voice? What do you think?

Peace -

Darryl

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The Other Side of You

I just had coffee with you in the airport
Waitin’ for your plane
A date without the kids
The first one in I can’t remember when
Another week-long business trip
They’re callin’ your flight to leave
And I miss you already
I can’t let go of your hand

There are so many ways to interpret this scene
We pick the one that makes us feel alright
Say good-bye, see you soon, just make me believe
That our love isn’t a lie
This love isn’t a lie

‘cause on one side you go
One side you stay
One side you know what is true
One side’s your heart
One side’s your fate
But my love will be waiting on the other side of you

The kids are in bed but they’ve been askin’
When you’d be comin’ home
Please stop by the gift shop
Those little things help them forgive
Our bed is half empty
I put a pillow where you usually sleep
I turn out the light, check the time
It’s too late for my wish

Are you as lost as I am with out you
Do you ever ask what we’re working for
College tuition, Disney Land trips
It seems we always want more
It seems we always want more

‘cause on one side you go
One side you stay
One side you know what is true
One side’s your heart
One side’s your fate
But my love will be waiting on the other side of you

I just want to dance
Like we did that first night
Where did the moments go
In our hands then out of sight
Out of sight out of mind

‘cause on one side you go
One side you stay
One side you know what is true
One side’s your heart
One side’s your fate
But my love will be waiting on the other side of you